One of the things I have been quoted on in mainstream media was my take on success. I shared that success is like a coin – the being and doing aspects are directly linked. If you want lasting success and fufillment it is important to work both sides of the coin.
We live in a society that predominantly measures success by the grades you get in your exams, the money you earn and the lifestyle possessions you acquire. Whilst that is one measure of success, it has unfortunately led to an imbalance in the way success is defined and experienced.
For example so many people operate a definition of success that only allows them to feel good about themselves when they are achieving something.
There are 3 challenges with this:-
• That perspective of success defers the feel good factor and can rob a person of joy in the journey.
• It also emphasizes the ‘doing’ side of the coin in order to feel good.
• A person can end up reducing themselves to a set of executable tasks which when completed successfully, lead to the achievement in question.
If a person is to experience lasting success and fulfilment, it is important to reconsider and move toward a new definition of success that embraces other important factors. Since life is happening now, and the place we spend the most time is in our skin, success needs to embrace happiness and well-being in the present and not just the future.
The irony is that if a person can learn to access joy and happiness in the present without it being attached to an achievement, the vibrancy that results will act as fuel that aids momentum towards the achievement of a dream.
In fact the capacity to experience joy in the present moment from a place of unconditional love toward self are strong foundation principles for building and enhancing success.
The first steps to realigning to a more holistic definition of success is to pause and acknowledge that the definition you may have bought into has been influenced by society’s emphasis yet has led to an imbalance in experience.
Secondly, decide to redefine success on your terms. Consider the values you wish to build on, and the relationship with yourself you wish to enjoy, and reinstate those values, and tend to your well-being on a regular basis. Learn that the place from which you take action is as important as the action itself – there is a difference between acting from joy as opposed to obligation for example.
When you address these being aspects, over time you will start to feel a more complete feeling of success and a greater joy and appreciation for life each day.